I can’t begin to express the gratitude that I have for my friends that were there for me during last year – the most difficult in my life.
Several would check in to see how I was doing on a regular basis and I would often have to tell them “not well at all”. I really hated to say this as I am typically a very optimistic and cheerful person. However, there are seasons in life that can bring us to our knees – and THAT is when the true power of friendship really kicks in!
I am not ashamed to admit that I really needed my friends and called on them during my time of need and can only hope that they will reach out to me without a second thought.
If you know someone that is going through a challenging time I hope that you will reach out to them…and…even more importantly, if YOU are not doing well, please ask for help.
We are here to help each other and we are WAY more alike than we are different.
When we are going through a difficult time, we may hesitate to call even our best friends because we don’t want to burden them with our troubles. This can be especially true if we’ve been going through a series of challenges, and we’re starting to feel as if we sound like a broken record. It is important to remember that at times like these our friends sincerely want to be there for us whenever they can. We can always check with them to make sure it’s a good time for them before we start talking, and if it’s not a good time, we can call back at another time, or call another friend.
We know for ourselves that when we have a good friend, we don’t want them to suffer alone when we are just a phone call away. We want them to call us and share their sorrows with us, as well as their joys, because this is what sharing a life through friendship is about. It is at our lowest points that we really need to rely on our friends without worrying that we are a burden. If you are feeling self-conscious about having a tough time, you can bring this fact into the conversation by acknowledging it. Chances are your friend will reassure you that she is happy to be there for you. In fact, rather than feeling taxed, most of us feel better when we have helped a friend simply by listening empathically while they share their feelings.
Without our friends, we would be hard pressed to get through the tough times and celebrate the good ones. If we leave our friends out of our process when the going gets tough, our friendships can begin to feel shallow. On the other hand, when we include our friends in the full story of our life — the good, the bad, and the ugly — we build authentic relationships in which we can be who we truly are. When we do this, we invite our friends to bring their whole selves to the relationship as well.
From DailyOM
